Help! I blew it BIGTIME. I married the
wrong girl! I don?t know what came over me. It all happened so fast!
Now I am afraid that I missed your call on my life. What can I do?
First, remember that God?s gifts and
callings are without repentance. God hasn?t changed His mind or His
plans regarding your life. He always remains faithful, even when we do
not. (Phillipians 1:6 &1 Thessalonians 5:24)
Many people end up marrying the
"wrong" person because they are anxious to be with someone. God?s
Word tells us to "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer
and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to
God." (Phillipians 4:6) If we truly trust God we will be willing to
wait until He brings it to pass.
God also encourages us to seek counsel,
wisdom, and sound advice before we make important decisions. Proverbs
11:14 says that "where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in a
multitude of counselors there is safety." Most people who run off and
marry the "wrong" person usually do so because they either haven?t
sought good counsel beforehand; or they were wisely advised, but chose to
Here?s the good news: God will meet
you where you are.
Abraham and Sarai were promised a child
by God. After waiting many years?and still no child, they decided to
take matters into their own hands. Sarah told her husband, Abraham, to
take Hagar, her handmaid as his secondary wife, and to have a child with
her since she, Sarai, was barren. She figured that by this action God
would give them the promised child. This was not God?s plan at all, and
caused trouble for all involved. (Read Genesis 16-18)
Fortunately, God is in the business of
making miracles out of mistakes! Not only did He give Abraham and Sarai
the child He had promised them (after they were obedient and sent Hagar
and her child away); but God also met Hagar and her son, Ishmael, when
they were facing death in the desert. "And God heard the voice of the
youth, and the angel of God called to Hagar out of heaven and said to her,
What troubles you Hagar? Fear not, for God has heard the voice of the
youth where he is." (Genesis 21:17) Cry out to God! He will hear you
and answer you.
None of us have arrived. We are all in
the process of becoming. There is only one who is perfect, and "I am
convinced and sure of this very thing, that He who began a good work in
you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ. (Phillipians 1:6)
Gail Ramsey, an ordained minister, portrayed the role of
Susan Moore on the ABC soap opera General Hospital. She had other roles on
the TV programs Mike Hammer, Generations and California Dreams. Today,
Ramsey leads Semeion Ministries, where readers can write her at P.O. Box
77, Reynoldsburg, Ohio 43063.